Love Category

In Celebration of Homosexuality

Some of my most cherished friendships are with gay and lesbian people. For some reason I have always felt connected to the plight of the person who couldn’t fully be him- or herself for fear of being shamed, too different, or, where I grew up, an abomination to God. Today I have several gay friends, […]

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Some Day My Prince Will Come

Some day my prince will come. Someday I’ll find my love and how thrilling that moment will be when the prince of my dreams comes to me. All my life these lyrics have served as my prayer. I recall the hours planning my wedding, with a white dress, hundreds of flowers, a line of bridesmaids […]

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Love From the Shadows

Romantic relationships have been the forum of my deepest pain and darkest shadows. Before my son was born over seven years ago, I had spent decades chasing love. I wanted to feel special, loved, and worthy, and that experience was only going to come from having a husband. One man after the next was my […]

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To Friend or Not to Friend

As I child, I spent endless time on the phone with my divorced parents, counseling them and listening to their disappointment with one another. My father made it his business to call me and bemoan how sad he was about his failed relationships and how he wished he’d done better. My mother spent the next […]

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Why Ask Why: Ray and Janay Rice

All of this media coverage about Janay and Ray Rice just breaks my heart. It brings forward all the memories of watching my parents battle each other when I was a little girl. I’m reminded of how insidious and terminal a violent relationship can be. There was one particular occasion when I watched my father […]

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