Monthly Archives: September 2014

Some Day My Prince Will Come

Some day my prince will come. Someday I’ll find my love and how thrilling that moment will be when the prince of my dreams comes to me. All my life these lyrics have served as my prayer. I recall the hours planning my wedding, with a white dress, hundreds of flowers, a line of bridesmaids […]

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Love From the Shadows

Romantic relationships have been the forum of my deepest pain and darkest shadows. Before my son was born over seven years ago, I had spent decades chasing love. I wanted to feel special, loved, and worthy, and that experience was only going to come from having a husband. One man after the next was my […]

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A Hopeless Citizen

I was such an enthusiastic supporter of President Obama when he first ran for office and I’m so disappointed in his second term—the time he would be able to really put his ideals into practice! I rarely speak his name any longer. During his first campaign I held meeting in my home, canvassed the neighborhood, […]

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There’s a Lump on My Breast

Around a year ago I found a lump on my breast. I’d had a clean mammogram a year earlier, but of course I needed to get it checked out asap. After another mammogram and ultrasound, it was determined to be a cyst that needed to be examined every six months. Half a year later at […]

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The Darkest Night

The past year, a dark cloud of depression rolled in and stationed itself right above me. And even though I’ve always felt that I was coming undone just a little, over the past months I felt myself coming undone in ways I wasn’t accustomed to. It feels like I spent the better part of this […]

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Yoga! What Is It Good For? Absolutely Nothing!

Yoga! The thought of yoga makes me feel like a failure and the biggest loser that ever lived. I’ve run marathons and maintain a pretty healthy lifestyle so that at forty-six I look and feel pretty good. But for the most part, yoga has been beyond me; I just didn’t get it, and it pissed […]

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To Friend or Not to Friend

As I child, I spent endless time on the phone with my divorced parents, counseling them and listening to their disappointment with one another. My father made it his business to call me and bemoan how sad he was about his failed relationships and how he wished he’d done better. My mother spent the next […]

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Why Ask Why: Ray and Janay Rice

All of this media coverage about Janay and Ray Rice just breaks my heart. It brings forward all the memories of watching my parents battle each other when I was a little girl. I’m reminded of how insidious and terminal a violent relationship can be. There was one particular occasion when I watched my father […]

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On Giving Up and Dreams Deferred

I have been actively and deliberately following my bliss, pursuing my dreams and tracking my deepest desires since the birth of my son in 2007. Something woke up inside of me when he was born and subsequently diagnosed with Down syndrome. Actually his birth confirmed a diagnosis that had come during my twentieth week of […]

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